If you want to last longer in bed, you must understand some basic things about what makes lasting longer difficult. Everybody wants to have a satisfying sex with his partner and to extend this pleasure as long as possible. However, we see that almost 80% men complain of quick ejaculation that makes them insecure and ruin their enjoyment. Though most women do not complain about their partner's inability to last longer and often they pretend to be satisfied with their partner, the men are really concerned about this problem and they take it as a personal infirmity.

There are several basic reason why you can't control your ejaculation. But one thing which is quite certain is the fact that all these causes are emotional and none of them are physical. Though it is hard to believe. given the wide spread misconception among men about the problem of premature ejaculation, the fact is the almost all the cases of PE have their root in some emotional cause. If I am to pinpoint one single reason for it then I would say that the biggest reason for premature ejaculation is the inability of the person to handle a sudden level of sexual intensity.

When the excitement rises, it acts like a trigger in your testicles and you just have to shoot. This excite is often the prime cause of a quick ejaculation. Sometimes just by looking at the pubic hair, sometime just by the very touch of it, the ejaculation occurs. Though in a majority of cases, people can last at least up to one to two minutes, there have been cases where ejaculation occur within seconds. These cases results in a state of deep depression and anxiety in the man who feel somewhat incomplete in front of his woman.

One of the most effective way to solve this problem and ultimately control it fully is to build up your endurance and tolerance for powerful, pleasurable lovemaking. This endurance can be easily developed following a natural and preplanned approach towards it. One should build his endurance just like an athlete builds his endurance for pain and physical strength. In fact it the same principle, but a different approach.

The first requisite to last longer in bed is to adopt a positive approach toward the entire process of sex. One must understand that sex is not all about inserting his love tool inside his partner and ejaculating after few minutes. When two persons make love with each other, they touch each other both physically and emotionally. The sex organs are just mere tools to facilitate this process. They have their importance but they should not be given undue weightage over other things that make sex such an interesting phenomena. Foreplay, fondling and helping your partner to achieve orgasm are equally important factors that determine the quality and duration of sex. Unless we bring a combination of all these things into our sexual activity, we should not expect to last longer in bed. Once we do this, then by following a systematic approach we can easily master the art of lasting longer in bed.