Heterosexuals, homosexuals, and those in between all want to improve their sex life. We all want "more"; we all want "better." In fact we want both more and better. What's the problem, I want it, you want it, why not get together, right now? Alas, life and especially sex life is rarely that simple. You won't find any magic pill, perfume, potion, or pick-up line that will get you where you want to be before the evening, or if you're particularly ambitious, before the afternoon, is over.

There isn't even any article that will manage your sex life for you, or transform a loser into a winner. However, it is possible to improve your sex life whether you are living and loving a great relationship, a successful swinger, a three-time loser, or just about anyone else. Sexual relationship success is partly common sense, it's partly putting yourself in the other person's shoes before putting..., and it's partly something else. Well, you'll have to read these articles to find out about the third part.

We have so many suggestions for improving your sex life that we are writing an alphabetical series of articles on what to do. Just so you don't miss out, we are also writing an alphabetical series of articles on of what to do.. Don't squander your time, effort, perhaps money, and perhaps love by putting your foot in your mouth when what you really want; we all know what you really want. We present a double series of articles for the letter C.

C is for compromise. This is a major term for both sexual and non-sexual relationships. In fact we have highlighted this term for our companion series of articles on building relationships, commitment, and love. Sexual compromise is a lot more than saying "You want once a week, I want once a day, why not compromise on four times a week?" While this compromise sounds pretty good to me, don't be surprised if it doesn't fly. Compromise in sexual relationships means understanding how your partner feels about things and meeting him or her half way. Actually true compromise is much more than that. If one partner has a strong aversion to such and such an activity, compromise on that specific activity is virtually impossible. The nay-sayer should suggest an alternate course of action. You could check out together several new positions, and find one or more that both of you are willing, and hopefully anxious to try. That's a good compromise. But don't keep count of how many positions your partner rejected.

C is for celebrate. Enjoy the fact that you are together and that you can please each other. Champagne is an excellent good way to add to the festivities. And there are plenty of less expensive sparkling wines that are pleasant to drink, especially in good company. One word of advice; many sparkling wines come in small bottles known as splits that can be just right for two people. Don't get drunk. Only wierdos mix sex and vomit. And don't drink excessively and drive. The morgue is no place for lovers or even friends.

C is for credible. The fact that someone cannot be believed puts a damper even on a non-serious relationship. When you say something, mean it. Of course, under certain circumstances you are allowed to murmur sweet nothings in certain ears but don't go overboard. Notice that we didn't say that C is for credulous; there's no point in being the sort of person who believes everything - you have the biggest... I guess that could fit in the category of sweet nothings. Even if it isn't in-credible.